Words can be malleable like that, but the art of communication is a bit more strict in it's proper implementation. To be successful, to be good at communicating means a practiced art of listening. Not formulating your thought while the interviewer is speaking.
Absorbing all that is laid before you, not trying to bring it in for a landing...prematurely. There is naught gained by this. The initial idea might have been empathy,
"I know what you are saying, so I will finish the sentence to show you that we are grokking."
By its utterance we have abdicated our responsibility to the other person and have dismissed their thoughts. I know what you are saying is not the same as we share much in common.
To SHARE you have to give & take.
Dominance? Dismissive? Superior? Boredom? Disinterested?
Why don't we want to take the time to listen?
To play a musical solo well we are listening first and then answering. If not it was a canned riff in response to the song.
When you get a new record, do you look at the cover and tell Carlos, Eric and Jimi,
"I already know what you are about to say, so allow me to finish this album for you?"
It is a practiced thing, both musically and while communicating. We are born with the ability to hear the pleasing sounds but it takes practice to sit through a complete piece to gain the perspective looking back can impart.
(Open Country Joy - Mahavishnu Orchestra. It begins with a serene rambling sort of jam...fades. A vibrant call and answer piece begins. The piece ends abruptly and the serene rambling jam returns - my head jerked up..."This was one tune?")
Lesson taken...now to work it into a polished thing.
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